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When change is as inevitable as the tides, any smart company wants to ride the wave—not struggle to stay afloat. \u003C\u002Fspan\u003E\u003C\u002Fp\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003E\u003Cspan style=\"font-weight: 400;\"\u003EI’ve noticed that many of the same executives who speak so passionately about building cultures of innovation simultaneously signal to their teams that failure is not to be tolerated. Despite their great intelligence, these leaders fail to realize that innovation and failure are the opposite sides of the same coin. \u003C\u002Fspan\u003E\u003C\u002Fp\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003E\u003Cspan style=\"font-weight: 400;\"\u003EEven the most creative employees won’t feel empowered to take the risks that innovation requires if their leaders show no tolerance for failure. You just can’t have one without the other.\u003C\u002Fspan\u003E\u003Cspan style=\"font-weight: 400;\"\u003E\u003C\u002Fspan\u003E\u003C\u002Fp\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003E\u003Cimg loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"size-medium wp-image-1538 aligncenter\" src=\"https:\u002F\u002Fwp.susandavid.com\u002Fwp-content\u002Fuploads\u002F2022\u002F12\u002FNewsletter_Accepting-the-Flip-Side-of-Our-Goals-700x394.jpg\" alt=\"\" width=\"700\" height=\"394\" srcset=\"https:\u002F\u002Fwp.susandavid.com\u002Fwp-content\u002Fuploads\u002F2022\u002F12\u002FNewsletter_Accepting-the-Flip-Side-of-Our-Goals-700x394.jpg 700w, https:\u002F\u002Fwp.susandavid.com\u002Fwp-content\u002Fuploads\u002F2022\u002F12\u002FNewsletter_Accepting-the-Flip-Side-of-Our-Goals-1024x576.jpg 1024w, https:\u002F\u002Fwp.susandavid.com\u002Fwp-content\u002Fuploads\u002F2022\u002F12\u002FNewsletter_Accepting-the-Flip-Side-of-Our-Goals-768x432.jpg 768w, https:\u002F\u002Fwp.susandavid.com\u002Fwp-content\u002Fuploads\u002F2022\u002F12\u002FNewsletter_Accepting-the-Flip-Side-of-Our-Goals-1536x864.jpg 1536w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 700px) 100vw, 700px\" \u002F\u003E\u003C\u002Fp\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003E\u003Cspan style=\"font-weight: 400;\"\u003EMany times, we’ll find that our goals are locked in an intimate dance with a difficult emotion or experience. Just as innovation and failure are paired together, so, too, are collaboration and disagreement. You can’t reap the benefits of your team’s diverse ideas while at the same time expecting everyone to always agree. \u003C\u002Fspan\u003E\u003C\u002Fp\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003E\u003Cspan style=\"font-weight: 400;\"\u003EFew of us relish failure or disagreement, but I always encourage my clients not to mistake the uncomfortable part of the creative process for a symptom of dysfunction that must be stamped out. \u003C\u002Fspan\u003E\u003C\u002Fp\u003E\n\u003Cblockquote\u003E\u003Cp\u003EA difficult emotion does not always indicate that something is wrong.\u003C\u002Fp\u003E\u003C\u002Fblockquote\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003E\u003Cspan style=\"font-weight: 400;\"\u003EIn fact, it’s often a signal that we’re on the right track.\u003C\u002Fspan\u003E\u003Cspan style=\"font-weight: 400;\"\u003E\u003C\u002Fspan\u003E\u003C\u002Fp\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003E\u003Cspan style=\"font-weight: 400;\"\u003EThis is just as true for individuals striving to reach their personal and professional goals. If we’re to fulfill the hopes we have for ourselves, we’ll almost inevitably have to face down that hope’s mirror image.\u003C\u002Fspan\u003E\u003C\u002Fp\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003E\u003Cspan style=\"font-weight: 400;\"\u003EAre you looking for a loving, stable romantic relationship? You’re unlikely to get there without enduring rejection and dates that just don’t work out. Do you want to master a new skill—coding, maybe, or video editing? Then prepare for the vulnerability that comes with being a beginner, where missteps are unavoidable and “dumb” questions are the only way to get answers.\u003C\u002Fspan\u003E\u003C\u002Fp\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003E\u003Cspan style=\"font-weight: 400;\"\u003EOf course, the knowledge that breakups are part of the search for a partner doesn’t make them easier to endure. (If only we were wired that way!) Nor does the recognition that innovation requires failure dull the disappointment when a project you’ve poured months into turns out to be a dead end. What can we do when we face the inevitable sting of such situations? Here are a couple of suggestions.\u003C\u002Fspan\u003E\u003C\u002Fp\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003E\u003Cb\u003EFirst, let yourself process the very valid emotions that are sure to emerge. \u003C\u002Fb\u003E\u003Cspan style=\"font-weight: 400;\"\u003EDon’t pretend that your pain is no big deal or chastise yourself for feeling how you feel. Make the choice to recognize and honor your experience.\u003C\u002Fspan\u003E\u003C\u002Fp\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003E\u003Cb\u003EThen, try to reframe such experiences not as roadblocks to your goals, but as evidence that you’re taking the steps necessary to achieve them.\u003C\u002Fb\u003E\u003Cspan style=\"font-weight: 400;\"\u003E The old adage “no pain, no gain” has some truth to it. The hurt you’re now feeling shows that you’re brave enough to take risks, and that’s worth celebrating.\u003C\u002Fspan\u003E\u003C\u002Fp\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003E\u003Cspan style=\"font-weight: 400;\"\u003EIt’s hard to build the life you want to live! Give yourself credit for risking pain and unpleasantness, and realize that these moments make the joyful ones possible.\u003C\u002Fspan\u003E\u003C\u002Fp\u003E\n",excerpt:"\u003Cp\u003EI’ve consulted for hundreds of businesses and organizations, and no matter the industry, executives preach […]\u003C\u002Fp\u003E\n",postBasics:{author:e},date:aj,dateGmt:aj,postId:958,tags:{nodes:[{name:g,slug:h},{name:ae,slug:af},{name:i,slug:j},{name:ag,slug:ah}]},categories:{nodes:[{slug:o,name:k,parent:b}]},PostFlexibleContent:{flexibleContent:[]},previousPost:{node:{id:"cG9zdDo5NDQ=",title:"Creating Space Between Thinker and Thought",slug:"creating-space-between-thinker-and-thought",uri:"\u002Farticle\u002Fcreating-space-between-thinker-and-thought\u002F",featuredImage:{node:{altText:a,mediaDetails:{height:C,width:n},mediaItemUrl:"https:\u002F\u002Fwp.susandavid.com\u002Fwp-content\u002Fuploads\u002F2022\u002F05\u002FNewsletter_Creating-Space-Between-Thinker-and-Thought.jpg",sourceUrl:"https:\u002F\u002Fwp.susandavid.com\u002Fwp-content\u002Fuploads\u002F2022\u002F05\u002FNewsletter_Creating-Space-Between-Thinker-and-Thought-1024x819.jpg",srcSet:"https:\u002F\u002Fwp.susandavid.com\u002Fwp-content\u002Fuploads\u002F2022\u002F05\u002FNewsletter_Creating-Space-Between-Thinker-and-Thought-1024x819.jpg 1024w, https:\u002F\u002Fwp.susandavid.com\u002Fwp-content\u002Fuploads\u002F2022\u002F05\u002FNewsletter_Creating-Space-Between-Thinker-and-Thought-700x560.jpg 700w, https:\u002F\u002Fwp.susandavid.com\u002Fwp-content\u002Fuploads\u002F2022\u002F05\u002FNewsletter_Creating-Space-Between-Thinker-and-Thought-768x614.jpg 768w, https:\u002F\u002Fwp.susandavid.com\u002Fwp-content\u002Fuploads\u002F2022\u002F05\u002FNewsletter_Creating-Space-Between-Thinker-and-Thought-1536x1229.jpg 1536w"}},categories:{edges:[{node:{name:k}}],nodes:[{slug:o,name:k,parent:b}]},tags:{nodes:[{name:i,slug:j},{name:l,slug:m}]},postBasics:{author:e,metaInfo:b,externalLink:b}}},nextPost:{node:{id:"cG9zdDo5NjA=",title:"Master of None",slug:"master-of-none",uri:"\u002Farticle\u002Fmaster-of-none\u002F",featuredImage:{node:{altText:a,mediaDetails:{height:C,width:n},mediaItemUrl:"https:\u002F\u002Fwp.susandavid.com\u002Fwp-content\u002Fuploads\u002F2022\u002F05\u002FNewsletter_Master-of-None.jpg",sourceUrl:"https:\u002F\u002Fwp.susandavid.com\u002Fwp-content\u002Fuploads\u002F2022\u002F05\u002FNewsletter_Master-of-None-1024x819.jpg",srcSet:"https:\u002F\u002Fwp.susandavid.com\u002Fwp-content\u002Fuploads\u002F2022\u002F05\u002FNewsletter_Master-of-None-1024x819.jpg 1024w, https:\u002F\u002Fwp.susandavid.com\u002Fwp-content\u002Fuploads\u002F2022\u002F05\u002FNewsletter_Master-of-None-700x560.jpg 700w, https:\u002F\u002Fwp.susandavid.com\u002Fwp-content\u002Fuploads\u002F2022\u002F05\u002FNewsletter_Master-of-None-768x614.jpg 768w, https:\u002F\u002Fwp.susandavid.com\u002Fwp-content\u002Fuploads\u002F2022\u002F05\u002FNewsletter_Master-of-None-1536x1229.jpg 1536w"}},categories:{edges:[{node:{name:k}}],nodes:[{slug:o,name:k,parent:b}]},tags:{nodes:[{name:g,slug:h},{name:i,slug:j}]},postBasics:{author:e,metaInfo:b,externalLink:b}}},isPreview:d,preview:b},sign_up_banner_data:{copy:"Join more than 150,000 people around the world – subscribe to the emotional agility community newsletter",link:{target:a,title:"Sign Up Today",url:p}},absoluteURL:b,shareModalOpen:d},"data-v-f4a71e8c:0":{data:{authorsName:e,authorsImage:{altText:a,mediaDetails:{height:ak,width:ak},mediaItemUrl:"https:\u002F\u002Fwp.susandavid.com\u002Fwp-content\u002Fuploads\u002F2022\u002F02\u002Fsue-headshot1.jpg",sourceUrl:"https:\u002F\u002Fwp.susandavid.com\u002Fwp-content\u002Fuploads\u002F2022\u002F02\u002Fsue-headshot1-1024x1024.jpg",srcSet:"https:\u002F\u002Fwp.susandavid.com\u002Fwp-content\u002Fuploads\u002F2022\u002F02\u002Fsue-headshot1-1024x1024.jpg 1024w, https:\u002F\u002Fwp.susandavid.com\u002Fwp-content\u002Fuploads\u002F2022\u002F02\u002Fsue-headshot1-300x300.jpg 300w, https:\u002F\u002Fwp.susandavid.com\u002Fwp-content\u002Fuploads\u002F2022\u002F02\u002Fsue-headshot1-150x150.jpg 150w, https:\u002F\u002Fwp.susandavid.com\u002Fwp-content\u002Fuploads\u002F2022\u002F02\u002Fsue-headshot1-768x768.jpg 768w, https:\u002F\u002Fwp.susandavid.com\u002Fwp-content\u002Fuploads\u002F2022\u002F02\u002Fsue-headshot1-1536x1536.jpg 1536w, https:\u002F\u002Fwp.susandavid.com\u002Fwp-content\u002Fuploads\u002F2022\u002F02\u002Fsue-headshot1-120x120.jpg 120w, https:\u002F\u002Fwp.susandavid.com\u002Fwp-content\u002Fuploads\u002F2022\u002F02\u002Fsue-headshot1.jpg 1674w"},authorsPosition:b,authorsShortBio:"Susan David, Ph.D. is one of the world’s leading management thinkers and an award-winning Harvard Medical School psychologist. Her TED Talk on the topic of emotional agility has been seen by more than 10 million people. She is a frequent contributor to the New York Times, Washington Post, and Wall Street Journal and often appears on national radio and television. \u003Ca href=\"\u002Fabout\u002F\"\u003ELearn more\u003C\u002Fa\u003E.\r\n"}},"data-v-7f21c8ae:0":{data:{socialMediaLink:[{logo:q,url:r},{logo:s,url:t},{logo:u,url:v},{logo:w,url:x},{logo:y,url:z}]}},"data-v-4cb39b78:0":{posts:[{node:{id:"cG9zdDoyMjA5",title:"Transforming ‘Should’ into ‘Want’: How to Create Lasting Change",slug:"transforming-should-into-want-how-to-create-lasting-change",content:"\u003Cp\u003E\u003Cspan style=\"font-weight: 400;\"\u003ESome years ago, I consulted for a hard-charging executive who cared little for his health. His constant travel made it difficult to establish good habits. He knew he was risking a shortened lifespan, but that wasn’t enough for him to make his health a priority. \u003C\u002Fspan\u003E\u003C\u002Fp\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003E\u003Cspan style=\"font-weight: 400;\"\u003EThe executive and his wife had adopted a son from abroad. By his teenage years, the boy had developed into a gifted artist. One day, he showed his father a mournful self-portrait titled the “The Orphan,” but the version of himself depicted was present-day—a young man of 16, not the little boy they’d adopted years back.\u003C\u002Fspan\u003E\u003C\u002Fp\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003E\u003Cspan style=\"font-weight: 400;\"\u003EThe executive asked about the title. Did his son still feel like an orphan? The boy burst into tears. He feared that his father’s lifestyle would soon rob him of yet another parent before he was ready. That finally did it. The executive turned his habits around.\u003C\u002Fspan\u003E\u003C\u002Fp\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003E\u003Cspan style=\"font-weight: 400;\"\u003ESo many of us can relate to this as we struggle to change our habits and achieve new goals. Is there a challenge you want to meet in the months ahead? Have you previously attempted to reach this goal and failed? \u003C\u002Fspan\u003E\u003C\u002Fp\u003E\n\u003Cblockquote\u003E\u003Cp\u003E\u003Cb\u003EThe key to success is to remember that a willing heart is more powerful than a wagging finger. \u003C\u002Fb\u003E\u003C\u002Fp\u003E\u003C\u002Fblockquote\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003E\u003Cimg loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"alignnone size-medium wp-image-1571\" src=\"https:\u002F\u002Fwp.susandavid.com\u002Fwp-content\u002Fuploads\u002F2022\u002F12\u002FNewsletter_A-Wagging-Finger-or-a-Willing-Heart-1-700x394.jpg\" alt=\"\" width=\"700\" height=\"394\" srcset=\"https:\u002F\u002Fwp.susandavid.com\u002Fwp-content\u002Fuploads\u002F2022\u002F12\u002FNewsletter_A-Wagging-Finger-or-a-Willing-Heart-1-700x394.jpg 700w, https:\u002F\u002Fwp.susandavid.com\u002Fwp-content\u002Fuploads\u002F2022\u002F12\u002FNewsletter_A-Wagging-Finger-or-a-Willing-Heart-1-1024x576.jpg 1024w, https:\u002F\u002Fwp.susandavid.com\u002Fwp-content\u002Fuploads\u002F2022\u002F12\u002FNewsletter_A-Wagging-Finger-or-a-Willing-Heart-1-768x432.jpg 768w, https:\u002F\u002Fwp.susandavid.com\u002Fwp-content\u002Fuploads\u002F2022\u002F12\u002FNewsletter_A-Wagging-Finger-or-a-Willing-Heart-1-1536x864.jpg 1536w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 700px) 100vw, 700px\" \u002F\u003E\u003C\u002Fp\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003E\u003Cspan style=\"font-weight: 400;\"\u003EThe thing to ask is not whether something is “right” or “wrong” but how it relates to the way you want to live your life. What kind of mental framework is providing the foundation for your change?\u003C\u002Fspan\u003E\u003C\u002Fp\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003E\u003Cspan style=\"font-weight: 400;\"\u003EWe’re often bombarded with messages about what others think we should do (or we do this to those around us). Our goal is to deliver top-quality work to a client, so we admonish our staff when their product is subpar. We’re worried about a loved one’s smoking habit, so we reprimand them when we smell tobacco on their clothes. In the case of the executive, both his doctor and his wife pressured him to improve his health and both failed to spark change. Why? \u003C\u002Fspan\u003E\u003C\u002Fp\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003E\u003Cspan style=\"font-weight: 400;\"\u003EBecause the values being pushed—abstract health benefits—weren’t his values. But the executive’s son recast the situation in a way that resonated deeply with his father. The “why” behind his goals were now clear.\u003C\u002Fspan\u003E\u003C\u002Fp\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003E\u003Cspan style=\"font-weight: 400;\"\u003ERather than pressuring from the outside in, it’s more effective to cultivate change from the inside out. If you’re trying to encourage a shift in someone (or yourself), consider the values that they (or you) already hold. Here are a couple suggestions for how you might go about it.\u003C\u002Fspan\u003E\u003C\u002Fp\u003E\n\u003Cul\u003E\n\u003Cli style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"\u003E\u003Cspan style=\"font-weight: 400;\"\u003EConsider what the person’s values might be\u003C\u002Fspan\u003E\u003C\u002Fli\u003E\n\u003Cli style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"\u003E\u003Cspan style=\"font-weight: 400;\"\u003EThink of how you might frame the end goal in terms that align with these values. \u003C\u002Fspan\u003E\u003C\u002Fli\u003E\n\u003Cli style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"\u003E\u003Cspan style=\"font-weight: 400;\"\u003ENotice how the person is mentally framing the goal: Are they feeling defeated? Do they need encouragement? \u003C\u002Fspan\u003E\u003C\u002Fli\u003E\n\u003Cli style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"\u003E\u003Cspan style=\"font-weight: 400;\"\u003ERemember that change is a process, not an event, and you must be patient with both yourself and others in the face of any transition. This kind of gentleness is integral to successful change—it simply won’t happen without a sense of compassion.\u003C\u002Fspan\u003E\u003C\u002Fli\u003E\n\u003C\u002Ful\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003E\u003Cspan style=\"font-weight: 400;\"\u003EWhen you let actions radiate outward from an open heart, you’re far more likely to see lasting results.\u003C\u002Fspan\u003E\u003C\u002Fp\u003E\n",featuredImage:{node:{altText:a,mediaDetails:{height:1080,width:n},mediaItemUrl:"https:\u002F\u002Fwp.susandavid.com\u002Fwp-content\u002Fuploads\u002F2022\u002F12\u002FNewsletter_A-Wagging-Finger-or-a-Willing-Heart-1.jpg",sourceUrl:"https:\u002F\u002Fwp.susandavid.com\u002Fwp-content\u002Fuploads\u002F2022\u002F12\u002FNewsletter_A-Wagging-Finger-or-a-Willing-Heart-1-1024x576.jpg",srcSet:"https:\u002F\u002Fwp.susandavid.com\u002Fwp-content\u002Fuploads\u002F2022\u002F12\u002FNewsletter_A-Wagging-Finger-or-a-Willing-Heart-1-1024x576.jpg 1024w, https:\u002F\u002Fwp.susandavid.com\u002Fwp-content\u002Fuploads\u002F2022\u002F12\u002FNewsletter_A-Wagging-Finger-or-a-Willing-Heart-1-700x394.jpg 700w, https:\u002F\u002Fwp.susandavid.com\u002Fwp-content\u002Fuploads\u002F2022\u002F12\u002FNewsletter_A-Wagging-Finger-or-a-Willing-Heart-1-768x432.jpg 768w, https:\u002F\u002Fwp.susandavid.com\u002Fwp-content\u002Fuploads\u002F2022\u002F12\u002FNewsletter_A-Wagging-Finger-or-a-Willing-Heart-1-1536x864.jpg 1536w"}},tags:{nodes:[{name:g,slug:h},{name:A,slug:B},{name:i,slug:j},{name:l,slug:m}]},categories:{nodes:[{slug:o,name:k,parent:b}]},postBasics:{author:e,metaInfo:b,externalLink:b}}},{node:{id:"cG9zdDoyMTcy",title:"The Four C’s of Emotional Agility",slug:"the-four-cs-of-emotional-agility",content:"\u003Cp\u003EThe quality of our lives depends not on how many tough emotions we experience, or even their intensity, but on the way we deal with them.\u003C\u002Fp\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EThe Four C’s of Emotional Agility, which I discuss in this video, can transform how we approach our emotions and help us navigate challenges at work more effectively. Of course, practicing self-compassion in challenging moments and cultivating curiosity about your feelings is easier said than done, especially when you’ve spent many years suppressing uncomfortable emotions or judging yourself for “being negative.”\u003C\u002Fp\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EIf you want to learn how to better engage with your emotions in the workplace and at home, join me for Emotional Agility for Wellbeing at Work. This 3-week transformative journey is designed for professionals, leaders, and anyone eager to enhance their wellbeing, reduce stress and burnout, and keep pace with the rapidly changing world of work.\u003C\u002Fp\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003ELearn more: \u003Ca class=\"in-cell-link\" href=\"http:\u002F\u002Fsusandavid.com\u002Fcourses\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\"\u003Esusandavid.com\u002Fcourses\u003C\u002Fa\u003E\u003C\u002Fp\u003E\n",featuredImage:{node:{altText:a,mediaDetails:{height:al,width:am},mediaItemUrl:"https:\u002F\u002Fwp.susandavid.com\u002Fwp-content\u002Fuploads\u002F2024\u002F10\u002F170A.jpg",sourceUrl:"https:\u002F\u002Fwp.susandavid.com\u002Fwp-content\u002Fuploads\u002F2024\u002F10\u002F170A-1024x819.jpg",srcSet:"https:\u002F\u002Fwp.susandavid.com\u002Fwp-content\u002Fuploads\u002F2024\u002F10\u002F170A-1024x819.jpg 1024w, https:\u002F\u002Fwp.susandavid.com\u002Fwp-content\u002Fuploads\u002F2024\u002F10\u002F170A-700x560.jpg 700w, https:\u002F\u002Fwp.susandavid.com\u002Fwp-content\u002Fuploads\u002F2024\u002F10\u002F170A-768x614.jpg 768w, https:\u002F\u002Fwp.susandavid.com\u002Fwp-content\u002Fuploads\u002F2024\u002F10\u002F170A-1536x1229.jpg 1536w, https:\u002F\u002Fwp.susandavid.com\u002Fwp-content\u002Fuploads\u002F2024\u002F10\u002F170A.jpg 1921w"}},tags:{nodes:[{name:g,slug:h},{name:ac,slug:ad},{name:l,slug:m}]},categories:{nodes:[{slug:an,name:D,parent:b}]},postBasics:{author:e,metaInfo:b,externalLink:b}}},{node:{id:"cG9zdDoyMTcw",title:"A Crucial Emotional Skill for Teenagers",slug:"a-crucial-emotional-skill-for-teenagers",content:"\u003Cp\u003EIf you’re the parent of a teenager, you know that the teenage years can be…rocky. Even if you feel well-versed in tending to the emotional needs of a younger child, a teenager’s emotional needs can feel like a vast and terrifying wilderness by comparison. 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